I didn’t invite my fiance’s coworker from our wedding, he thinks I’m jealous, but a six word comment sealed their fate

A WOMAN who didn’t invite one of her fiance’s colleagues to her wedding has revealed why she did it.

Having spent the best part of a year meticulously planning the big day, the 29-year-old admitted her husband-to-be’s ‘working wife’ overshadowed it all.

The future husband and his “working wife” did not see a problem in their relationshipImage credit: Getty is the author

He said it was unfair to make him choose between his fiancée and his co-workerCredit: Getty

They have been working together for 30 years and are quite close, she admitted Reddit.

In fact, they spend a lot of time talking to each other, leaving the wife-to-be feeling like the third wheel in their relationship.

But things took a turn for the worse at the engagement party when she overheard a conversation between her partner and his “work wife”.

She apparently told him he could “always marry me instead”, leaving the woman stunned.

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Then the bride-to-be decided not to invite her to the wedding.

“At first I was genuinely relieved that he had a good friend at work, especially since his job can be demanding and a bit isolating,” she wrote on Reddit.

“I tried to be the cool, understanding partner who wasn’t embarrassed by how close they were.

“But as time went on, their relationship became… well, it became something that I just don’t know how to deal with.”

The bride added that their relationship is not always appropriate, they often talk late at night and share inside jokes.

“She knows things about him that sometimes I don’t, and it pains me to realize how often he turns to her for advice and laughs for me.

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“My fiance assures me that they’re just friends, that she’s his work wife, and that it’s nothing to worry about.

“But it feels like she’s gotten so close that sometimes I’m on the outside looking in,” she added.

The employee’s wife even objected to the location of the wedding when she found out where it would take place, as well as to the flowers, because “he never liked bright colors.”

And her excitement about the big day didn’t end there; she even told her fiancee future the man didn’t like her dress because she “knew his style”.

The bride said she tried to laugh, but her little jabs hurt and left her insecure about the relationship.

Things finally came to a head at the engagement party when she overheard their conversation and felt left out again.

After the party, she argued with her partner about the comment, but he brushed it off, saying his working wife was “just having fun”.

She said: “I felt like I was going crazy, like maybe I was seeing something that wasn’t there, but… how could anyone feel that from someone so close to their fiance?”

It was then that she decided to withdraw the invitation from the big day as she got too close for comfort, but her partner disagreed.

He responded by saying that not inviting her now would “damage his reputation at work.”

Other Reddit users told the bride that not inviting her was the right thing to do, with some commenting that their relationship sounded like an “emotional affair.”

One of them said: “Her comments are completely inappropriate and your fiance’s willingness to side with her and choose her over you is deeply troubling.

“I can definitely predict that on the wedding day she will try to interfere with everything.”

And another agreed: “He sees the situation as having to choose between two women. He already puts his colleague on the same plane as his bride; this means that it does not follow the basic premise: marriagewhich means giving up all others.

“He has no concept of emotional boundaries and needs some schooling.”

Four red flags that your partner is cheating

Private investigator Aaron Bond of BondRees has identified four signs that your partner may be cheating.

They start taking the phone with them everywhere

In a close relationship, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones; if their calling habits change, they may be hiding something.

Aaron says, “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone with them everywhere, even around the house, or gets defensive when you ask to use their phone, it could be a sign they’re being unfaithful.”

“You should also look at how they put their phone away when they’re not using it. If they’re looking at the phone with the screen down, maybe they’re hiding something.”

They start telling you less about their day

When partners cheat, they begin to avoid you, this may be due to guilt or because it is easier for them to lie to you.

“If you feel like your partner has suddenly started avoiding you and doesn’t want to do anything with you anymore or stops telling you about their day, that’s another red flag.”

“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be difficult, it’s impossible to remember all your lies, and it’s an easy way to get caught,” says Aaron.

Their libido changes

Your partner’s libido can fluctuate for a variety of reasons, so it may not be a surefire sign of cheating, but Aaron says it can be a red flag.

Aaron says, “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but sometimes they may also have more sex at home because they feel guilty and use this increased sex to cover up their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start introducing new things to your sex life that weren’t there before.”

They become negative towards you

Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and they will feel good about it, it can cause tension and anxiety within them that they will have to justify.

“To get rid of the tension they feel inside, they will try to convince themselves that the problem is with you, and they will start criticizing you out of nowhere. Maybe you didn’t walk the dog, clean the dishes, or read Book your kids at bedtime that day, a little problem like this can now seem like a big problem, and if you face it, your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.