Dear Annie: My partner’s daughters to me are irresistible and he does not defend me

Dear Annie: I was in an eight -year relationship that seems to end, in many respects because of problems with my partner’s daughters. They became disrespectful and jealous, and one crossed serious boundaries, stealing with me and sabotaged our relationship.

Over the past year, I have struggled with mental health, which deteriorated after I lost my mother and faced with considerable stress. I was even hospitalized for 10 days. Since then, the dynamics has changed completely. These daughters, who were both married to their own families, were once part of a close unit that enjoyed Sunday dinners and quality time. Now they seem to come out of their way to make me feel unstable and I know I don’t imagine it.

What hurts the most is that my partner doesn’t stand for me. He denies something to know and rejects my anxiety that made me feel isolated. I have gathered evidence of their behavior in the last year, but I still feel broken and confused.

Am I unfairly aimed, is my mental health clouded by my judgment? And how can I cope with the potential end of relationships I worked so hard to build? – broken and confused

Dear broken: I’m sorry you are experiencing it. Eight years are a long time to be in a relationship. It is not easy to feel unsupported, especially when you were dealing with such a difficult year.

If your partner’s daughters are deliberately blowing you up, it is unacceptable and it is even harder when your partner does not enter to protect or support you. You deserve better than feel free or accused. Because of this, there are always two sides in history, so make sure you read their behavior correctly.

Take a little time to focus on what you need to feel protected and respectful. Talk to your partner openly about how it affects you and what you need from it. If he does not want to listen to or solve this problem, you should ask if this relationship still provides you with the support and love you deserve.

First of all, you have to protect your own mental health. Create boundaries with your daughters, if necessary, rely on your friends or consultant to support, and do what makes you feel at rest.

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