How to be happy for your friend even when you’re a little jealous

Realizing that it is a counterproductive assumption that you know someone’s circumstances – and then measure them against your own – will eventually help you avoid trap of comparison, says Dr. Guden.

Show yourself kindness with a magazine of gratitude or letter

We will risk guessing that you are not a certified hate that rooted for the fall of your friend. Most likely, their brilliant achievements shine light on your perceived flaws. That is why Dr. Guden says it is important to focus on the positives when you feel like a confused lateral character in a rum-com.

If it is difficult for you to count your blessings, gratitude magazine can be a great place to start. You don’t have to write a novel – just write down five things you are grateful for every day, Dr. Guden offers. “These can be small things like a nice text from your brother or your favorite morning drink,” she says. “It can help you appreciate what you have, instead of dwelling on what you don’t do it.”

We understand that a daily journal is not every cup of tea, so if you have a little time and you are ready to call, you can also consider that Dr. Roberts calls a letter of self-government. “It is for yourself to express your current feelings, and give positive statements and compassion, as if you were writing this advice for a friend in a similar situation,” she explains.

Example: “I know that you felt as if you were behind, but you just know that you have achieved so much in a short period of time, and more good things will certainly appear over time.” Purpose, says Dr. Roberts, is to simulate a sweet handwritten note that you would write to support a loved one. This way, you can hang on it and read when you need the words of kindness to cheer up and confidence.

Depending on the situation, be honest with your friend about your feelings

To say not to tell your friend why you are not 100% happy – it can be your question. It would be great if we had a stupid scenario to solve these types of inconvenient conversations, but to admit that you seem to be indignant – without sound like an evil witch – it’s not so easy.

“There are some risks to tell them about your jealousy, but it is important to remember how we tell what we are experiencing,” says Dr. Roberts. As a rule, it is best to share these feelings one on one because you do not want to make a conversation more inconvenient for your friend. And, of course, avoid their fault, or in mind that you deserve more success. In other words, don’t do it all about you.