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How a wife who abused her husband for 20 years was finally caught on ‘terrifying’ nanny cam footage – Netflix

How a wife who abused her husband for 20 years was finally caught on ‘terrifying’ nanny cam footage – Netflix

Warning: This article contains discussion of domestic violence which may upset some readers.

A woman who abused her husband for 20 years has finally been caught on “terrifying” nanny cam footage.

Making for a rather awkward watch, a real crime documentary which originally aired on 5 channel now added to Netflix and details A brave story by Richard Spencer.

My wife, my abuser shows the man speaking after a judge called it “the worst case of coercive and controlling behavior” they had ever seen.

Sheri Spencer physically, emotionally and financially abused Richard, threatening to frame him with violence to keep him from speaking out.

She even screamed for help at home, hoping their neighbors would corroborate any lies she told.

Spitting and stabbing him with forks, Richard began save footage recorded on nanny cameras as “insurance” so she wouldn’t block access to his children in the future.

How Cheri Spencer was finally caught

Because his ear was once disfigured when Cheri hit him with a wine bottle, Richard usually covered up his injuries with make-up.

But one evening she called one of his friends, saying that he was drunk and she was afraid of what he might do.

Spencer's abuse was caught on camera by a babysitter (Channel 5)

Spencer’s abuse was caught on camera by a babysitter (Channel 5)

Richard’s friend ran up to the house. However, once the two men were alone, he asked about the bruise.

And this led to the victim showing one of the horrifying videos he saved from the babysitter’s camera.

A friend of Richard’s went directly to the police, who were then handed over a mass of collected evidence, including 36 videos, nine audio recordings and 43 photographs of the injuries.

“The abuse was hidden from the outside world”

One video even showed Sheri threatening her husband with a knife, lunging at him and leaving him with a cut 2 cm below the knee.

Nanny cam footage captures horrific moments, such as Sheree brandishing a knife in their home (Channel 5)

Nanny cam footage captures horrific moments, such as Sheree brandishing a knife in their home (Channel 5)

During the filing, the husband and father say: “Sheri’s abuse of me developed and escalated over time, repeatedly using acts of physical assault, threats, verbal abuse and humiliation to punish and control me.

“The abuse was hidden from the outside world, including friends and family.”

Sheri was arrested in 2021 after pleading guilty in 2023 to coercive and controlling behavior between January 2016 and June 2021, and three counts of assault causing actual bodily harm between January and April 2020.

She was sentenced to four years in prison, where she is now.

My wife, my abuser is now available to watch on Netflix.

If you are experiencing domestic violence, know that you are not alone. Injured men can call HumanityThe confidential free helpline on 0808 800 1170 is available Monday to Friday 10am to 4pm. There is also a national domestic violence helpline Sheltersupporting women and children, on 0808 2000 247, available 24/7 or via chat, available 10am to 10pm, Monday to Friday.